Asperger Meets Girl: Happy Endings for Asperger Boys

front cover
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Asperger Meets Girl: Happy Endings for Asperger Boys
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FOREWORD BY HUGH JONES
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PREFACE
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CONTENTS
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1
What Problem Am I Trying to Solve Here?......Page 17
2.1 Idea 1: The space of possibilities......Page 19
2.1.1 Plotting some points in the space......Page 20
2.1.3 Swinging......Page 24
2.1.2 Old-fashioned romance......Page 22
2.1.4 Student fantasy......Page 26
2.1.5 Coming up roses......Page 27
2.1.6 Slippery when wet......Page 28
2.2 Idea 2: The conventional games......Page 30
2.2.1 The conventional male game......Page 31
2.2.2 The conventional female game......Page 32
2.2.3 And?......Page 34
2.2.4 Revisiting the extracts......Page 35
2.3.1 Graphs of relationship space......Page 39
2.3.2 How much do you love me? Quantitative
attributes of relationships......Page 40
2.3.3 Subjectivity of relationships......Page 42
2.3.5 Defining the centre......Page 46
2.3.6 Why can’t people just say what they mean?......Page 47
2.3.7 The extracts revisited (again)......Page 49
3 Things to
Try......Page 53
3.1.1 Why so slow?......Page 54
3.2 How sex joins on to real life......Page 56
3.2.1 Sensuality......Page 57
3.2.2 Attention......Page 58
3.2.3 Power......Page 59
3.3.1 Get a body......Page 60
3.3.2 Get a persona......Page 61
3.3.3 Get a look......Page 63
3.3.4 Your fellow men......Page 64
3.3.5 Platonic women......Page 66
3.3.6 Good persistence and bad persistence......Page 69
3.4.1 Tactical goals......Page 72
3.4.2 Times and places......Page 73
3.4.3 Your fellow men (again)......Page 74
3.5.1 Staring and personal space......Page 75
3.6.1 Confidence......Page 92
3.6.3 Herself in particular......Page 93
3.6.4 Colluding again......Page 94
3.5.2 The art of apology......Page 77
3.5.3 Conversation......Page 79
3.5.4 Your feelings, considered from a tactical
point of view......Page 86
3.5.5 The last mile......Page 87
4 Afterword......Page 97
5.1 Theoretical context......Page 99
5.1.1 Philosophy......Page 100
5.2 Cartesian diagrams of the space of
possibilities......Page 101
5.2.1 Old-fashioned romance......Page 103
5.2.2 Swinging......Page 104
5.2.3 Student fantasy......Page 105
5.2.4 Coming up roses......Page 106
5.3.2 Numbers for the graphs......Page 108
REFERENCES
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