Tales of Hi and Bye: Greeting and Parting Rituals Around the World

Half-title......Page 3
Title......Page 5
Copyright......Page 6
Dedication......Page 7
Contents......Page 9
Acknowledgements......Page 12
To The Reader......Page 13
Introduction......Page 15
Gestures & Signals......Page 19
Take a bow: bending at the neck or waist......Page 21
BENDING: THE RULES IN JAPAN......Page 22
Which style?......Page 24
How long?......Page 25
HIT THE FLOOR!......Page 26
OTHER STRINGS TO THE BOW......Page 29
BENDING OVER BACKWARDS......Page 30
Hi, Hitler!: arm salutes at various angles......Page 32
The practice spreads......Page 34
HITLER IN AMERICA?......Page 35
Do a nose job: rubbing and sniffing as a greeting......Page 40
FARAWAY HONGI......Page 43
XXXX! the heartfelt kiss......Page 44
THE KISS OF DEATH......Page 45
KISSING HELLO......Page 46
…and even further down......Page 48
THE ENGLISH KISS......Page 49
YOU CAN KISS THAT ONE GOODBYE......Page 50
I NEED SOME HELP, KISS A HAND!......Page 51
A lasting custom......Page 53
BLOW ME AWAY......Page 54
WHAT CHEEK!......Page 55
Criminal peck......Page 58
KISS MY AIRS......Page 59
Flashy hello: the eyebrow flash......Page 64
Getting the shakes: the story of the handshake......Page 68
OLD CUSTOMS......Page 69
PUZZLING TIMES......Page 71
À l’anglaise donc......Page 73
The shaking spreads......Page 75
FIRST-HAND EXPERIENCE......Page 76
SHAKE AND SHAKE AGAIN......Page 78
SHAKESPEARE SHAKES BYE......Page 79
SECRET HANDSHAKES......Page 80
SHAKE AND JOIN THE CUB......Page 81
THE EVEN STRONGER SHAKE......Page 82
THE GESTURE THAT GIVES YOU AWAY......Page 83
Slaps, daps, thumps and bumps: not so gripping handshakes......Page 85
HI-5......Page 86
HANDY ACROBATICS......Page 87
I dips me lid: the hat as a courtesy tool......Page 89
Timing is of the essence......Page 92
WHY DIP OR TIP OR DOFF?......Page 93
A HANDY TIP......Page 95
Hello? Hell, no! greeting refusals......Page 97
DO I KNOW YOU?......Page 99
Waves of emotion: greeting from a distance......Page 100
MAKING WAVES......Page 103
DROWNING, NOT WAVING......Page 104
ALOHA!......Page 105
Customs & Behaviours......Page 107
No hug for Dr Livingstone: a demonstration of restraint......Page 109
It hurts to say goodbye: the Parthian shot......Page 111
How stiff can your upper lip get? avoiding strangers......Page 113
A TWITCH IN THE LIP......Page 115
FAR TOO FORWARD......Page 116
THE GREETING......Page 119
THE FAREWELL......Page 120
SO YOU’RE BACK, SO WHAT?......Page 122
IMPERTINENCE: HOW DELIGHTFUL!......Page 123
SAY HI TO CHINESE FOOD AND IT SAYS HELLO BACK......Page 124
Chinese whispers – European echoes......Page 126
But I don’t want to go!......Page 127
From Russia with love: sit on your case and say goodbye......Page 128
Cut it out! how to avoid saying ‘hello’......Page 130
I don’t speak to my mother-in-law: avoidance language......Page 134
ONE MOTHER (IN-LAW) OF A LANGUAGE......Page 136
Phonethics: telephone mannerisms......Page 138
NAME, NUMBER OR ‘HELLO’?......Page 139
Thanks for having me on! names and forms of address in the media......Page 142
Eskimodesty: greeting and visiting in the Arctic......Page 145
THE POLAR ‘GIMME-FIVE’......Page 149
Names & Addresses......Page 151
What’s so good about it? the curious nature of ‘good-’ greetings......Page 153
MYSTERIOUS RULES......Page 154
GOOD, SO GET GOING THEN......Page 155
I DO GREAT!......Page 157
Ahoy, ahoy! Pick up the phone! ‘hello’ and its uses......Page 159
HELLO – WHERE DOES IT COME FROM?......Page 161
UNIQUELY TELEPHONIC......Page 162
The unlucky Mr Szczesciarz: foreign names in foreign places......Page 164
Wang is King in China: too many people, not enough names......Page 167
…AND THE OTHER WAY AROUND......Page 169
Finding Björk: Icelandic names......Page 171
OOPS!......Page 173
BIRCH, THAT DAUGHTER OF GUDMUND’S......Page 174
THERE’S A REASON FOR EVERYTHING......Page 175
ALL OF ‘YOU’ ARE MY EQUALS......Page 178
…SO NOW WE LOSE THE OTHER ‘YOU’, TOO......Page 179
THE BOTTOM LINE......Page 181
Mister Doctor: titles of medicos, surgeons and barbers......Page 185
WESTERN VARIETIES......Page 188
OTHER NAMELESSNESSES......Page 189
When your coz is your sis: kinship terms......Page 193
FROM SIMPLE…......Page 194
…TO INTRICATE…......Page 195
…TO PERPLEXING......Page 196
TRIANGULAR RELATIONS AND DEPARTED FAMILY......Page 198
BONUS EFFECTS......Page 199
You, thou and other politenesses: familiar and polite ‘you’......Page 201
THOUING AND YOUING IN OTHER TONGUES......Page 203
DUZEN AND VOUVOYER......Page 204
MISS-TAKES......Page 206
INCLUSIVE VERSUS EXCLUSIVE......Page 208
DUAL......Page 209
…AND NOW THAT SIMPLE LANGUAGE TRIAL......Page 211
ADDRESSING SALAD......Page 212
NAME AND CHARACTER......Page 214
AGE-OLD BELIEFS......Page 215
WHOSE TABOOS?......Page 216
UNCLE X......Page 218
FROM NAMELESSNESS TO THOUGHTLESSNESS......Page 219
DON’T CALL ME, I’LL CALL YOU......Page 220
CALLING THE DEAD......Page 221
Re-calling the dead......Page 223
Dead names – new words......Page 227
Bye-bye! how things have changed......Page 228
Postscript......Page 230
Take a bow......Page 232
Do a nose job......Page 233
XXXX!......Page 234
Getting the shakes......Page 236
Slaps, daps, thumps and bumps......Page 237
I dips me lid......Page 238
It hurts to say goodbye......Page 239
Phonethics......Page 240
What’s so good about it?......Page 241
Wang is King in China......Page 242
When your coz is your sis......Page 243
Include me out!......Page 244
For me to know and you to find out......Page 245
Postscript......Page 246
Sources......Page 247
Picture sources......Page 259
Index......Page 261