Find Your Power: Boost Your Inner Strengths, Break Through Blocks and Achieve Inspired Action

Acknowledgements......Page 11
Introduction......Page 13
The journey of finding your power......Page 15
What this book is based on......Page 16
Thinking differently about power......Page 18
My story......Page 19
Turning things around......Page 21
Finding power in the way you read this book......Page 23
Part I The Power to Begin......Page 25
How to energize yourself......Page 26
Understanding motivation......Page 28
Motivational awareness......Page 30
Asking yourself what you really want......Page 31
Awareness of your own mortality......Page 32
Taking steps to become clearer......Page 33
Inspirational dissatisfaction......Page 34
Finding the want behind the should......Page 36
What comes before how......Page 38
What is your call?......Page 39
Power Points......Page 40
2 A New Story of Power......Page 42
From control to influence......Page 43
From physics to psychology......Page 47
From big to small......Page 50
From noun to verb......Page 55
From ‘they should’ to ‘I will’......Page 56
Power Points......Page 57
Realistic optimism......Page 59
The dream cycle......Page 62
Flow experiences......Page 65
What do I feel good about?......Page 67
What’s happening here?......Page 68
What feelings do I have here?......Page 69
What needs my attention?......Page 71
What really matters here?......Page 72
Dream......Page 73
Plan......Page 76
Intention......Page 77
Working out how......Page 79
Do......Page 83
Power Points......Page 85
4 Developing Trust and Confidence......Page 88
Seeing a bigger picture in time......Page 89
Static thinking......Page 90
Self-fulfilling prophecies......Page 92
Personal evolution......Page 95
The phase of disbelief......Page 98
The importance of pauses......Page 99
Crisis as turning point......Page 100
Moving away from all-or-nothing thinking......Page 101
The way we think about goals......Page 103
Process goals boost confidence......Page 104
Cultural shifts......Page 106
Power Points......Page 107
Part II The Power to Move Through Blocks......Page 109
Understanding the comfort trap......Page 110
Threshold guardians......Page 113
Recognize your resistance......Page 114
Remember your call to adventure......Page 117
Challenge your objections......Page 119
Identify small steps and take them......Page 120
Prepare yourself......Page 121
Find allies......Page 123
Feel the fear and do it anyway......Page 124
Power Points......Page 126
The first step is to challenge your disbelief......Page 128
The second step is to develop frustration tolerance......Page 130
The third step is to think outside the box......Page 135
Placing ourselves in a box......Page 136
Boxed in by rules......Page 139
Doing the unthinkable......Page 140
Stepping-stone ideas......Page 141
Thinking outside the box about power......Page 148
Power Points......Page 150
7 Shifting Stuck Patterns......Page 152
What is a stuck pattern?......Page 153
It’s just the way things are......Page 154
It’s down to luck......Page 155
Who or what is to blame?......Page 156
What’s the pattern and how do I participate in it?......Page 157
Understanding loops......Page 162
Predisposing causes......Page 164
Precipitating causes......Page 167
Perpetuating causes......Page 170
Become the change......Page 174
Power points......Page 182
8 Bouncing Back from Failure and Crisis......Page 184
See failure as an inevitable part of life......Page 185
The way to succeed is to double your failure rate......Page 187
Turn a minus into a plus......Page 190
When it hurts, say ‘ouch’......Page 191
Forgiveness......Page 192
Use the dream cycle......Page 194
Learn to change your state......Page 197
Panic......Page 198
Defeat......Page 201
Denial......Page 202
Engagement......Page 205
I can’t, we can......Page 209
Trust in something larger than yourself......Page 210
Power Points......Page 211
Part III The Power to Keep Yourself Going......Page 213
9 Connected Vision......Page 214
What is connected vision?......Page 215
Foreground and background......Page 217
Will it make any difference?......Page 223
The three circles of influence......Page 224
Learning to see the five mountains......Page 226
Layers of context......Page 228
Turning things around......Page 230
Seeing your power to change things......Page 231
Power Points......Page 233
10 Believing Mirrors......Page 235
The roots of self-belief......Page 236
Reference groups......Page 237
Toxic reference groups......Page 239
Cultivate support around you......Page 240
Identifying your support network......Page 241
1 + 1 = 2 and a bit......Page 243
Creating support structures......Page 246
Asking someone to be your support person......Page 247
Support groups......Page 248
Use process thinking......Page 249
Be specific......Page 250
Changing group culture......Page 251
Power Points......Page 252
How to have a fulfilling life......Page 254
Four stages of development......Page 257
Being part of a larger story......Page 261
See your life as an adventure story......Page 262
Seek out the truth......Page 265
Allow yourself to feel disturbed......Page 268
Understand about level shift......Page 270
Use personal power tools......Page 272
Let your deeper purpose act through you......Page 274
Power Points......Page 278
12 Making It Enjoyable......Page 280
A both/and approach......Page 281
Power with yourself......Page 283
Keeping an eye on the process......Page 284
Having good reasons......Page 285
Experiencing mini-victories every day......Page 289
The right level of company......Page 292
Finding your passion point......Page 294
From maximizing to optimizing......Page 296
Power Points......Page 297
13 Continuing the Journey......Page 299
Harvesting the gifts......Page 300
Review......Page 301
Plan......Page 302
Moving on......Page 303
Notes......Page 305