Breaking negative thinking patterns : a schema therapy self-help and support book

Content: Preface viii  <
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1 Introduction 1  <
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1.1 What Is Schema Therapy? 2  <
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1.2 Understanding the Origin of Your Patterns 4  <
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1.2.1 Recognizing your Modes 5  <
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1.2.2 Changing your Modes 5  <
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Part I: Become Familiar with Your Modes 7  <
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2 Child Modes 9  <
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2.1 Vulnerable Child Modes 12  <
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2.1.1 Get in contact with your own Vulnerable Child Mode 17  <
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2.1.2 Detecting Vulnerable Child Modes in others 20  <
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2.2 Angry and Impulsive Child Modes 20  <
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2.2.1 Get in contact with your own Angry or Impulsive Child Mode 26  <
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2.2.2 Detecting Angry or Impulsive Child Modes in others 28  <
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2.3 Happy Child Mode 32  <
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2.3.1 Get in contact with your own Happy Child Mode 34  <
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2.3.2 Detecting the Happy Child in others 36  <
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2.4 Summary 36  <
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3 Dysfunctional Parent Modes 38  <
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3.1 Demanding Parent Modes 44  <
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3.1.1 How can I detect my own Demanding Parent Mode? 49  <
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3.1.2 How can I detect a Demanding Parent Mode in other people? 49  <
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3.2 Guilt-Inducing Parent Modes 51  <
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3.2.1 How can I detect Guilt-inducing Parent Modes? 55  <
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3.3 Punitive Parent Mode 57  <
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3.3.1 How can I detect a Punitive Parent Mode in myself? 60  <
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3.3.2 How can I detect a Punitive Parent Mode in others? 62  <
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3.4 Summary 63  <
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4 Coping Modes 65  <
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4.1 Compliant Surrender Mode 73  <
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4.1.1 How can I detect a Compliant Surrender Coping Mode in myself? 74  <
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4.1.2 How can I detect a Compliant Surrender Mode in others? 81  <
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4.2 Avoidant Coping Mode 81  <
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4.2.1 How can I detect Avoidant Coping Mode in myself? 84  <
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4.2.2 How can I detect Avoidant Coping Mode in others? 84  <
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4.3 Overcompensatory Coping Mode 88  <
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4.3.1 How can I detect Overcompensatory Coping Mode in myself? 88  <
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4.3.2 How can I detect Overcompensatory Coping Mode in others? 92  <
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4.4 Summary 95  <
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5 Healthy Adult Mode 96  <
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5.1 How can I detect a Healthy Adult Mode in myself? 98  <
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5.2 How can I detect a Healthy Adult Mode in others? 99  <
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5.3 How can I distinguish the Healthy Adult Mode from other modes? 101  <
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5.4 Summary 104  <
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Part II: Change Your Modes 105  <
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6 Healing Vulnerable Child Modes 107  <
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6.1 Get Acquainted with your Vulnerable Child Mode 108  <
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6.2 Taking care of your Vulnerable Child Mode 111  <
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7 Gaining Control over Angry and Impulsive Child Modes 117  <
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7.1 Get Acquainted with your Angry or Impulsive Child Mode 119  <
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7.2 Setting Limits to Angry or Impulsive Child Modes 120  <
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7.2.1 Goals and needs 122  <
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7.2.2 Chair dialogues 123  <
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7.2.3 Learn to direct your behavior 124  <
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7.2.4 How can I learn to control my anger? 126  <
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8 Strengthen the Happy Child Mode 130  <
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8.1 Get Acquainted with your Happy Child Mode 130  <
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8.2 Exercises to Strengthen the Happy Child Mode 133  <
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9 Setting Limits to Dysfunctional Parent Modes 136  <
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9.1 Get in Touch with your Dysfunctional Parent Mode 137  <
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9.2 Silence Dysfunctional Parent Modes 144  <
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9.2.1 Exercises to reduce Dysfunctional Parent Messages 147  <
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10 Changing Coping Modes 150  <
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10.1 Get in Touch with your Coping Modes 151  <
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10.2 Reducing Coping Modes 151  <
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10.2.1 Reducing the Compliant Surrender Mode 157  <
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10.2.2 Reducing avoidance 157  <
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10.2.3 Reducing Overcompensation 160  <
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11 Promoting Your Healthy Adult Mode 165  <
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Glossary 175  <
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References and Further Reading 179  <
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Index 181