The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change?: A Woman' Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go

Cover......Page 1
Book Title......Page 5
Copyright......Page 6
Acknowledgments......Page 7
Contents......Page 9
Foreword by William L. Higgins, Ph.D.......Page 11
Introduction: The Verbal Abuser—Can He Change?......Page 15
1 About Change......Page 21
2 The Verbally Abusive Man and Dream Woman......Page 31
3 Types and Origins of Verbal Abuse......Page 55
4 Does Counseling Help? Some Therapists Don’t Know......Page 73
5 Is Change Possible?......Page 95
6 The Partner Wants Him to Change......Page 103
7 What Motivates Him to Change?......Page 113
8 How to Prepare for the Agreement......Page 127
9 How to Present the Agreement......Page 135
10 How to Write the Agreement......Page 149
11 Men Seeking Change......Page 165
12 The Process of Change......Page 175
13 He Won’t Agree......Page 197
14 Has He Changed?......Page 211
15 Choosing to Stay or Go......Page 221
Epilogue: Change Is Essential......Page 241
Appendix A: Verbally Abusive Statements......Page 247
Appendix B: Also by the Author......Page 267
Appendix C: Resources......Page 269
Appendix D: Recommended Reading......Page 273
Appendix E: Web Sites for Custody Information......Page 275
Reader Survey......Page 277
Endnotes......Page 281
Index......Page 285