The Language of Love & Respect

Acknowledgments
To Get the Most From This Book
Introduction: Is Communication Really the Key to Marriage?
PART I
A Book Within a Book
1.A Short Course on Love and Respect
PART II
Three Vital Truths for Better Communication
2.In Marriage, the Mouth Matters
3.Not Wrong, Just Different
	4.Can You Trust Your Spouse’s Goodwill? (Can Your Spouse Trust Yours?)
PART III
The Crazy Cycle: A Relentless Enemy of Marital Communication
5.Decode—and Stop the Crazy Cycle
6.“Ouch! You’re Stepping on My Air Hose!”
	7.Forgiveness: The Ultimate Strategy for Halting the Crazy Cycle
PART IV
The Energizing Cycle: To Better Communicate, Meet Your Spouse’s Needs
8.Enjoy Win-Win Communication on the Energizing Cycle
9.Decode—and Then Use C-H-A-I-R-S to Energize Him
10.Decode—and Then Use C-O-U-P-L-E to Energize Her
11.Dealing with the Everyday Challenge
12.More Strategies for Dealing with Communication Glitches
PART V
The Rewarded Cycle: The Unconditional Dimension of Communication
	13. Why the Rewarded Cycle Is for Every Marriage—Hot, Cold, or Lukewarm
	14. The Jesus Way of Talking—Part I Communicating with Love and Respect
	15. The Jesus Way of Talking—Part II To Love and Respect, Use Truthful, Uplifting, and Forgiving Words
	16. The Jesus Way of Talking—Part III To Love or Respect: Be Thankful, Scriptural-and Faithful
Conclusion: In God Always Trust
Endnotes
	Appendix A How to Get Off a Chronic Crazy Cycle Caused by Low-Grade Resentment
	Appendix B Forgiving—But Also Confronting—the Three A’s: Adultery, Abuse, Addiction
	Appendix C How to Write a Love Note or Make a Good “I Love You” Speech to Your Wife
	Appendix D Using Feedback to Clarify Your Conversations
	Appendix E Unconditional Love and Respect Do Not Operate on a Scale of 1–10
	Appendix F My Prayer in This Time of Trial