Tales of Hi and Bye: Greeting and parting rituals around the world

Cover......Page 1
About......Page 2
Tales of Hi and Bye: Greeting and Parting Rituals Around the World......Page 4
Copyright......Page 5
Dedication......Page 6
Contents......Page 8
Acknowledgements......Page 11
To The Reader......Page 12
Introduction......Page 14
Gestures & Signals......Page 18
Take a bow: bending at the neck or waist......Page 20
BENDING: THE RULES IN JAPAN......Page 21
Which style?......Page 23
How long?......Page 24
HIT THE FLOOR!......Page 25
OTHER STRINGS TO THE BOW......Page 28
BENDING OVER BACKWARDS......Page 29
Hi, Hitler!: arm salutes at various angles......Page 31
The practice spreads......Page 33
HITLER IN AMERICA?......Page 34
Do a nose job: rubbing and sniffing as a greeting......Page 39
FARAWAY HONGI......Page 42
XXXX! the heartfelt kiss......Page 43
THE KISS OF DEATH......Page 44
KISSING HELLO......Page 45
…and even further down......Page 47
THE ENGLISH KISS......Page 48
YOU CAN KISS THAT ONE GOODBYE......Page 49
I NEED SOME HELP, KISS A HAND!......Page 50
A lasting custom......Page 52
BLOW ME AWAY......Page 53
WHAT CHEEK!......Page 54
Criminal peck......Page 57
KISS MY AIRS......Page 58
Flashy hello: the eyebrow flash......Page 63
Getting the shakes: the story of the handshake......Page 67
OLD CUSTOMS......Page 68
PUZZLING TIMES......Page 70
À l’anglaise donc......Page 72
The shaking spreads......Page 74
FIRST-HAND EXPERIENCE......Page 75
SHAKE AND SHAKE AGAIN......Page 77
SHAKESPEARE SHAKES BYE......Page 78
SECRET HANDSHAKES......Page 79
SHAKE AND JOIN THE CUB......Page 80
THE EVEN STRONGER SHAKE......Page 81
THE GESTURE THAT GIVES YOU AWAY......Page 82
Slaps, daps, thumps and bumps: not so gripping handshakes......Page 84
HI-5......Page 85
HANDY ACROBATICS......Page 86
I dips me lid: the hat as a courtesy tool......Page 88
Timing is of the essence......Page 91
WHY DIP OR TIP OR DOFF?......Page 92
A HANDY TIP......Page 94
Hello? Hell, no! greeting refusals......Page 96
DO I KNOW YOU?......Page 98
Waves of emotion: greeting from a distance......Page 99
MAKING WAVES......Page 102
DROWNING, NOT WAVING......Page 103
ALOHA!......Page 104
Customs & Behaviours......Page 106
No hug for Dr Livingstone: a demonstration of restraint......Page 108
It hurts to say goodbye: the Parthian shot......Page 110
How stiff can your upper lip get? avoiding strangers......Page 112
A TWITCH IN THE LIP......Page 114
FAR TOO FORWARD......Page 115
THE GREETING......Page 118
THE FAREWELL......Page 119
SO YOU’RE BACK, SO WHAT?......Page 121
IMPERTINENCE: HOW DELIGHTFUL!......Page 122
SAY HI TO CHINESE FOOD AND IT SAYS HELLO BACK......Page 123
Chinese whispers – European echoes......Page 125
But I don’t want to go!......Page 126
From Russia with love: sit on your case and say goodbye......Page 127
Cut it out! how to avoid saying ‘hello’......Page 129
I don’t speak to my mother-in-law: avoidance language......Page 133
ONE MOTHER (IN-LAW) OF A LANGUAGE......Page 135
Phonethics: telephone mannerisms......Page 137
NAME, NUMBER OR ‘HELLO’?......Page 138
Thanks for having me on! names and forms of address in the media......Page 141
Eskimodesty: greeting and visiting in the Arctic......Page 144
THE POLAR ‘GIMME-FIVE’......Page 148
Names & Addresses......Page 150
What’s so good about it? the curious nature of ‘good-’ greetings......Page 152
MYSTERIOUS RULES......Page 153
GOOD, SO GET GOING THEN......Page 154
I DO GREAT!......Page 156
Ahoy, ahoy! Pick up the phone! ‘hello’ and its uses......Page 158
HELLO – WHERE DOES IT COME FROM?......Page 160
UNIQUELY TELEPHONIC......Page 161
The unlucky Mr Szczesciarz: foreign names in foreign places......Page 163
Wang is King in China: too many people, not enough names......Page 166
…AND THE OTHER WAY AROUND......Page 168
Finding Björk: Icelandic names......Page 170
OOPS!......Page 172
BIRCH, THAT DAUGHTER OF GUDMUND’S......Page 173
THERE’S A REASON FOR EVERYTHING......Page 174
ALL OF ‘YOU’ ARE MY EQUALS......Page 177
…SO NOW WE LOSE THE OTHER ‘YOU’, TOO......Page 178
THE BOTTOM LINE......Page 180
Mister Doctor: titles of medicos, surgeons and barbers......Page 184
WESTERN VARIETIES......Page 187
OTHER NAMELESSNESSES......Page 188
When your coz is your sis: kinship terms......Page 192
FROM SIMPLE…......Page 193
…TO INTRICATE…......Page 194
…TO PERPLEXING......Page 195
TRIANGULAR RELATIONS AND DEPARTED FAMILY......Page 197
BONUS EFFECTS......Page 198
You, thou and other politenesses: familiar and polite ‘you’......Page 200
THOUING AND YOUING IN OTHER TONGUES......Page 202
DUZEN AND VOUVOYER......Page 203
MISS-TAKES......Page 205
INCLUSIVE VERSUS EXCLUSIVE......Page 207
DUAL......Page 208
…AND NOW THAT SIMPLE LANGUAGE TRIAL......Page 210
ADDRESSING SALAD......Page 211
NAME AND CHARACTER......Page 213
AGE-OLD BELIEFS......Page 214
WHOSE TABOOS?......Page 215
UNCLE X......Page 217
FROM NAMELESSNESS TO THOUGHTLESSNESS......Page 218
DON’T CALL ME, I’LL CALL YOU......Page 219
CALLING THE DEAD......Page 220
Re-calling the dead......Page 222
Dead names – new words......Page 226
Bye-bye! how things have changed......Page 227
Postscript......Page 229
Take a bow......Page 231
Do a nose job......Page 232
XXXX!......Page 233
Getting the shakes......Page 235
Slaps, daps, thumps and bumps......Page 236
I dips me lid......Page 237
It hurts to say goodbye......Page 238
Phonethics......Page 239
What’s so good about it?......Page 240
Wang is King in China......Page 241
When your coz is your sis......Page 242
Include me out!......Page 243
For me to know and you to find out......Page 244
Postscript......Page 245
Sources......Page 246
Picture sources......Page 258
Index......Page 260