Self-Confidence : the Remarkable Truth of How a Small Change Can Boost Your Resilience and Increase Your Success.

Self-Confidence: The Remarkable Truth of How a Small Change Can Boost Your Resilience and Increase Your Success
Contents
Preface
About the Author
Introduction
	Getting More from Your Read
SECTION ONE The Stuff You Need to Know
	1 Why Self-Confidence Is the X-Factor for Life
		What’s the Big Deal about Confidence?
		You Don’t Have to Be Ill
		Self-Confidence Is the Key
		Self-Confidence – What it will and won’t lead to
			It won’t lead to you
			It will put you in a better position to
		How Confidence Can Help You Make the Most of Life
		It’s Time for Some Honesty
	2 Taking the “Con” Out of Confidence
		Five Myths around Developing Self-Confidence
		Myth Number One: Once You Have Confidence You Can Master Anything
		Myth Number Two: Some People Are Just Born Confident
			Confidence is situational
		Myth Number Three: Humility Is the Opposite of Confidence
		Myth Number Four: There Can Be No Room for Self-Doubt
		Myth Number Five: Alcohol Gives You Confidence
		So Far
	3 Who Shaped Your Confidence? Your Upbringing
		How Beliefs Affect Your Confidence
		Who Influences Your Beliefs about Yourself?
		How Your Upbringing Influences Your Beliefs and Your Self-Confidence
		Were Your Parents Awfulizers?
		What Motivates an Awfulizer?
		What to Do If You Were Brought up by an Awfulizer
		What to Do If You’re an Awfulizer
		Criticism, Acceptance, and Self-Confidence
	4 Who Shaped Your Confidence? Other Influences
		How Your Schooldays Affect Your Confidence
		How the Media Can Influence Your Self-Confidence
		How You Can Undermine Your Own Confidence
		What do you say when you talk to yourself?
SECTION TWO The Stuff that Will Really Help
	5 You’ll Get By with a Little Help from Your Friends
		Desperately Dependent?
		Where Does Your Support Come From?
		The Cheerleader
			The upside of a Cheerleader
			The downside of a Cheerleader
		The Challenger
			The upside of a Challenger
			The downside of a Challenger
		The Coach
			The upside of a Coach
			The downside of a Coach
		The Confidant
			The upside of a Confidant
			The downside of a Confidant
		The Beatles Were Right
		Different Roles for Different Folks
		Widening Your Circle of Friends
	6 How to Be Your Own Best Mate
		Seven 10% Tips to Avoid Sabotaging Your Confidence
			1 Accept that “flaws are us”
			2 Go easy on the boxing glove
			3 Perform plastic surgery on your mind
			4 Get a grip of the wheel
			5 Quit waiting to feel confident
			6 Weigh up but don’t be weighed down by criticism
			7 Take a success stocktake
	7 How to Shine When Your Neck’s on the Line
		Has Your Comfort Zone Become a Prison?
		The Reason Bad News Spreads so Fast
		Why You’re Stressed When You Need to Shine
		Don’t Flee from Your Anxiety, Face Up to It
		How to Calm Down
		Petrified of Public Speaking?
		Six 10% Tips For Public Speaking
			1 Turn the spotlight onto your audience
			2 S.L.I.M. your communication ‒ Say Less, Impact More
			3 Put PowerPoint in its place
			4 Say it with props
			5 Stories sell
			6 Avoid the hearse, go and rehearse
		Inspired at Interviews?
		Two 10% Tips For Job Interviews
			1 If you care then prepare
			2 Shining without sinning
		A Date with Destiny?
		Five 10% Tips For Dating
			1 Perspective pays
			2 Let’s do coffee
			3 Dress with care
			4 Be remembered ‒ for all the right reasons
			5 Rejections are reality
	8 Here’s How to Ramp Up Your Resilience
		Setbacks Happen
		Your 10% Tips on How to Ramp Up Your Resilience and Rebuild Your Confidence
			1 Grieving is good
			2 It ain’t what you see, it’s the way that you see it
			3 Park the pride
			4 Learn the lessons
			5 Molehills matter
	9 How to Handle Conflict Confidently
		The Consequences of Conflict Handled Badly
		The Way of the Avoider
			The consequences of being an Avoider
		The Way of the Aggressor
			The consequences of being an Aggressor
		How to Become More Confident and Assertive in Conflict Situations
			1 Recognize it’s OK
			2 Recognize that reality rules
			3 Recognize your rights
			4 Recognize your responsibilities
			Be prepared
			Focus on feelings and facts
			Save their face
			Be solution focused
	10 Have You Got the Confidence to go M.A.D.?
		The Confidence to Go M.A.D.?
		Contribution Creates Confidence
		Over to You
		A Dreamer or a Doer?
	11 A Little Extra to Take You Further
		Seven Ways to Make the Most From Your Life
			1 Remember, life is amazing
			2 Success comes through your grit, not just your gift
			3 Your diet is not just about what you eat
			4 Have the courage to quit sometimes
			5 Beware of too much time travel
			6 Self-care isn’t selfish ‒ it’s crucial to your success and sanity
			7 Show some leadership
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