Love in a Time of Loneliness

Cover
......Page 1
Contents......Page 6
Prologue: Sex, Death and Power......Page 9
Acknowledgements......Page 12
I. The Impossible Couple......Page 14
The concerned techno-lover......Page 19
Fantasies that create reality......Page 21
Self-fulfilling prophecies......Page 27
What about biology?......Page 30
Divided desire......Page 34
Animal instincts, human drives......Page 39
Drives: partial and auto-erotic......Page 41
Love is . . .......Page 47
... total and exclusive......Page 51
... cause of lack and desire......Page 53
The art of saying no......Page 56
About boys and girls......Page 59
The power of the imagination......Page 63
Culture and the prohibition of incest......Page 66
Masturbation and addiction......Page 70
Love and drive - the tunnel......Page 72
Two sorts of love - love is giving what you haven't got......Page 77
Love is poetry......Page 83
II. Fathers in Flight......Page 86
Freud, the Oedipus of his time......Page 90
Oedipus on the wrong track......Page 95
The traditional solution......Page 100
Filling your belly comes first, ethics come later!......Page 104
Traditional tales and historical reality......Page 112
The impossible centre of a discursive field......Page 118
Orestes in the twentieth century,or nothing new under the sun......Page 119
Primal fathers, Incorporated......Page 130
Credo quia absurdum:I believe this because it makes no sense......Page 135
The 'will to knowledge',eroticism and monsters......Page 139
The perverse superego: enjoy!......Page 142
The frightened band of heroes......Page 148
Irresistible urges......Page 155
Jekyll and Hyde......Page 160
Desire (drive): the never-ending story......Page 163
Drive (desire): the immediate......Page 171
Drive and trauma......Page 176
The forbidden apple......Page 182
Transgression: the sado-masochistic universe......Page 188
With a little help from my friends . . .......Page 196
The Meaning of Life - teleology......Page 201
Eros versus Thanatos......Page 207
Love in a Time of Loneliness......Page 212
Notes......Page 215
Bibliography......Page 220
Films......Page 225