Emotional Labor: The MetaFilter Thread Condensed

C. There are no gnomes!......Page 2
F. When will we have earned a turn?......Page 3
1. Back to school......Page 4
5. Holding the line is exhausting, and results in loss......Page 5
7. Falling on your sword... and the cost of being last in line......Page 6
3. It’s not the gift......Page 7
5. *The hard data on men’s health and EL......Page 8
2. Regarding a story of tone and word choice policing......Page 9
3. I literally could not be clearer... (also, It’s relaxing?! Do you even hear yourself?)......Page 10
5. When men react defensively......Page 11
7. You thought they were running to meet you, too......Page 12
3. Men: can we learn that someone being upset is enough to act? (*great note on consent)......Page 13
2. You aren’t asked to make that painful choice......Page 14
2. The address book......Page 15
2. Shamed by a 9-yr-old......Page 16
1. He’s lucky I hadn’t found this thread yet......Page 17
1. An even more unthinkable complaint than housework: Sex, the final frontier......Page 18
4. My pain “ruins his mood”......Page 19
5. There is no place for our lust, and you call us frigid?......Page 20
7. Basic science: women are biologically disinclined to have sex with their caretake-ees.........Page 21
1. I just want ONE day......Page 22
1. Allowing men to care: the next frontier......Page 23
3. Special dispensation for Major Moments in a Man’s Life.........Page 24
1. The backbone of relationships, not the entry fee......Page 25
3. ‘Budgeting’ for decline......Page 26
1. Yep, I’m done.........Page 27
3. My gold-plated extravagance.........Page 28
4. I can embrace singlehood! (aka, First I must dance)......Page 29
1. No more camping!......Page 30
3. A lungful of fresh air......Page 31
5. I am important to him and he likes to please me......Page 32
2. Finding a partner who will be good at EL......Page 33
3. We don’t want to drop it all on you; we want to work together......Page 34
5. The slow, non-linear path to change......Page 35
7. Newfound power: Making a conscious choice to take on (or not) EL......Page 36
10. Foregoing the “real” work......Page 37
11. Alternatives to living together.........Page 38
1. There is one part of my heart that is always broken......Page 39
2. “It was too much to read” (Also, keeping a stash of TP in the car)......Page 40
4. I heard a door swinging shut.........Page 41
1. What it can mean to demand mutual respect......Page 42
4. How reasonable EL differs from the fallacy of mindreading......Page 43
6. “I just realized that my wife needing more time off than me isn’t because I’m stronger”......Page 44
7. Why are you women so indecisive?......Page 45
10. The President, Warren Buffet or the Pope......Page 46
12. Thank you (from a man)......Page 47
E. Condensed Version 3-9, Jan 2016, prepared by Timid Robot Zehta......Page 48
F. Condensed Version 10, Jan 15 2016, prepared by cortex......Page 49