365 Ways to Raise Confident Kids

Title Page......Page 4
Copyright......Page 5
Dedication......Page 6
Acknowledgments......Page 7
Contents......Page 8
Introduction......Page 9
Part One: About Yourself......Page 14
Self-Esteem......Page 15
Feel Good Notebook......Page 16
Outline the Good Qualities......Page 17
I Like Me Poster......Page 18
Circle Dance......Page 19
Giving Specific Complaints......Page 20
Planting Positive Seeds of Thought......Page 21
Each Person Takes Center Stage......Page 22
Get Homework Done......Page 23
We’re a Great Family Because…......Page 24
My Personal Scrapbook......Page 25
Give a Morning Boost......Page 26
Emphasizing “Pull-Ups”......Page 27
Like Yourself!......Page 28
Supporting Each Other’s Self-Expression......Page 29
Singing Your Own Song......Page 30
Confidence in Conversation......Page 31
Nature Names......Page 32
Welcome Home......Page 33
Self-Motivation......Page 34
Dream File......Page 35
Goal Cards......Page 36
Self-Talk Strategies......Page 37
I Think I Can, I Think I Can......Page 38
Do You Have a Hero?......Page 39
Start a Business......Page 40
I Want to Quit......Page 41
Mapping Out Plans......Page 42
Looking Good, Feeling Neat......Page 43
Resourcefulness......Page 44
Teach Everyday Skills......Page 45
Make a Room Border......Page 46
Somewhere There’s a Book......Page 47
Take Control......Page 48
Organize Yourself......Page 49
Setting Goals......Page 50
Design Business Cards......Page 51
Teach Yourself Something New......Page 52
New Room Decorations......Page 53
If You Could Spend…......Page 54
Separate Time......Page 55
Introducing Alone Time......Page 56
Sounds of Silence......Page 57
Hobby Tales......Page 58
Being Uninterrupted......Page 59
Thinking Time......Page 60
Kids Have Time......Page 61
Alone in the Wild......Page 62
Imagination......Page 63
Imagine Your Future......Page 64
Change Channels......Page 65
Great Thinkers......Page 66
Cloud Stories......Page 67
Imagine the Presents......Page 68
What It’s Like to Work......Page 69
On the Answering Machine......Page 70
Part Two: Express Yourself......Page 71
Feelings......Page 72
Facing Your Feelings......Page 73
Getting in the Mood......Page 74
Managing Anger......Page 75
Responding to Difficult Feelings......Page 76
I’m a Boy, Nothing Hurts Me......Page 77
Releasing Difficult Feelings with Playdough......Page 78
Learning to Respond Well......Page 79
The Benefit of Tears......Page 80
Entertaining Dinner Conversations......Page 81
Feeling Ashamed......Page 82
Active Listening......Page 83
What Is Failure?......Page 84
Putting Anger Behind You......Page 85
Dance the Feeling......Page 86
Being Afraid......Page 87
Expressing Feelings Colorfully......Page 88
Understanding Your Anger......Page 89
Communication......Page 90
Trying to Understood......Page 91
Feel Good and Feel Bad Words......Page 92
Finding Out What Someone Means......Page 93
Speaking Eyeball to Eyeball......Page 94
Letting the Young Feel Big......Page 95
Children Taking the Initiative......Page 96
Communicating without Words......Page 97
Practicing Listening Skills......Page 98
Family Discussion Box......Page 99
Talking Something Through......Page 100
Time to Think......Page 101
Letter Writing Night......Page 102
Problem Solving in Different Styles......Page 103
Voices by Mail......Page 104
Response Time......Page 105
Touch......Page 106
Stress Release......Page 107
Rub a Hand......Page 108
Group Hug......Page 109
Touching on Peace......Page 110
Earth Touch......Page 111
Your Favorite Feel......Page 112
Imagine Life without Touch......Page 113
Massage Train......Page 114
Pressure Points......Page 115
Earth Hug......Page 116
Learning to Say No......Page 117
Experience the Senses......Page 118
Part Three: About Others......Page 119
Caring......Page 120
Nurse Duty......Page 121
Post a Note......Page 122
Thank-You......Page 123
While You’re Away......Page 124
Watch and Wonder......Page 125
Caring for Nature......Page 126
Model Empathy......Page 127
Watch TV Together and Talk About It......Page 128
Your Child’s World......Page 129
Friendship......Page 130
Being a Friend Means…......Page 131
Building Friendships......Page 132
What’s Wrong?......Page 133
Help with Friend Problems......Page 134
Peer Pressure......Page 135
A Friendly Debate......Page 136
Build Friendship in Your Family......Page 137
Rejected by the Clique......Page 138
Respect......Page 139
Respect Privacy......Page 140
Treat Others with Respect......Page 141
Quiet in Public Places......Page 142
Slow It Down......Page 143
Cooperation......Page 144
Stuck Together......Page 145
Spring Cleaning......Page 146
Create a Mood......Page 147
Family Garden......Page 148
Quiet and Alone......Page 149
Picture a Season......Page 150
Open to Change......Page 151
Change What?......Page 152
Change Is a State of Mind......Page 153
Make a Pact......Page 154
Change Is an Adventure......Page 155
Charting Process......Page 156
Rag Doll Game......Page 157
Finding New Things Around You......Page 158
The Old vs. the New......Page 159
Rubbing Stone......Page 160
Cook a Meal Together......Page 161
Seeds of Change......Page 162
Manners......Page 163
Top Ten Manners......Page 164
Imagine Life with No Manners......Page 165
Simon Says Please......Page 166
Greetings......Page 167
Mealtime Manners......Page 168
Don’t Say Don’t......Page 169
Openings to Talk......Page 170
Signal an Interruption......Page 171
Words We Use......Page 172
Phone Talk......Page 173
Giving and Accepting Compliments......Page 174
Recognizing Rude Behavior......Page 175
When Friends Come Over......Page 176
Thank-You Notes......Page 177
Who Would You Want to Live With?......Page 178
Guests at Play......Page 179
Being a Good Sport......Page 180
Community Building......Page 181
One Child, One Flower......Page 182
Volunteering......Page 183
Recycle......Page 184
Read a Newspaper Together......Page 185
Pen Pals......Page 186
Know Your Neighbors......Page 187
Part Four: Building Character......Page 188
Courage......Page 189
What Courage Is......Page 190
Badge of Courage......Page 191
Act as if You Can......Page 192
Face Your Fears......Page 193
Night Time Sleep Out......Page 194
Truthing......Page 195
Reward Honesty......Page 196
Describe It Honestly......Page 197
When a Child’s Truth Is Embarrassing......Page 198
Making Judgments vs.Stating True Feelings......Page 199
The Ring of Truth......Page 200
Bottle Your Judgments......Page 201
What to Do with Secrets......Page 202
True Feelings Being Heard......Page 203
Patience......Page 204
Waiting with Patience......Page 205
Working Through a Task......Page 206
Centerpiece......Page 207
When Angry, Seek Patience......Page 208
Patience Project......Page 209
Tolerance......Page 210
Family Moods Are Contagious......Page 211
Stay Calm in Your Child’s Storm......Page 212
When Things Are Beyond Our Control......Page 213
I Can’t Stand It When…......Page 214
Helpfulness......Page 215
Make a Chore Chart......Page 216
Move Furniture......Page 217
Help Wanted......Page 218
Cleaning Game......Page 219
Getting Things Put Away......Page 220
Chores Can Be Fun......Page 221
Responsibility......Page 222
What Responsibility Means......Page 223
What’s Yours?......Page 224
You Can Count on Me......Page 225
Working Together......Page 226
Understanding a Parent’s Responsibility......Page 227
New Responsibilities......Page 228
Most Responsible Thing to Do......Page 229
Safety First......Page 230
If It’s Your Mess…......Page 231
Irresponsibility Has Consequences......Page 232
Discipline......Page 233
Remembering Your Most Important Teacher......Page 234
Taking a Simple Approach......Page 235
Reinforcing the Positive......Page 236
Sharing the Wisdom of Rules......Page 237
Stop, Sit, and Breathe......Page 238
Growing a Habit......Page 239
“Bleep”......Page 240
Choosing a Style of Disciplining......Page 241
In the Land of Crime and Punishment......Page 242
Make Consequences Work......Page 243
Why Bribery Doesn’t Work......Page 244
Behavior and Consequence Chart......Page 245
Give Spontaneous Awards......Page 246
Forgiveness......Page 247
Say You’re Sorry......Page 248
Telling Your Fantasies about Life......Page 249
Fessing Up to Shortcomings......Page 250
Healing Rocks......Page 251
About Holding a Grudge......Page 252
Releasing Guilt......Page 253
Taking Steps Toward Acceptance......Page 254
Pin the Blame on the Donkey......Page 255
Grudge Dump......Page 256
Apology Letter......Page 257
Part Five: Challenges......Page 258
Times of Trouble......Page 259
Make a Timeline......Page 260
Troubled Faces......Page 261
Your Family and Mine......Page 262
Solve It Together......Page 263
Rose......Page 264
How Full Is Your Well?......Page 265
Stew On It Together......Page 266
Do What You Can......Page 267
Emotional First Aid Box......Page 268
Trouble Pals......Page 269
Think about Someone Else......Page 270
Shake Dance......Page 271
Grandest Teacher of All......Page 272
Create a Rainbow of Hope......Page 273
When Kids Feel Stress......Page 274
About Death......Page 275
Exploring the Mystery of Life and Death......Page 276
Talking about Who Has Passed on......Page 277
Say It Today......Page 278
Interviews with an Elder......Page 279
What Is Grieving?......Page 280
Remembering Our Pet Loss......Page 281
Let’s Remember......Page 282
Reflecting On Your Stage of Life......Page 283
Plant a Memory Tree......Page 284
Have a Remembrance Party......Page 285
Saying Good-Bye......Page 286
Daily Remembering......Page 287
Part Six: Family Matters......Page 288
Family History......Page 289
Matching Stories to Pictures......Page 290
Start a Scrapbook......Page 291
Different Versions......Page 292
World Dinner......Page 293
Reflecting Back......Page 294
Agenda Collection......Page 295
“When I Was Your Age” Stories......Page 296
Picturing Last Year......Page 297
A Space for Getting Attention......Page 298
Making a Time Capsule......Page 299
Make a Family Tree......Page 300
Having Family Interviews......Page 301
Make a Family Crest......Page 302
Home Movie Night......Page 303
Have a Family Journal......Page 304
Root of the Family......Page 305
Write a Newsletter......Page 306
Mom......Page 307
Knowing Yourself Through Journaling......Page 308
Acknowledging Your Own Goodness......Page 309
Creating a Fantasy Day......Page 310
Dreaming Up Solutions......Page 311
Getting Support for Mothering......Page 312
Making Time for Creative Renewal......Page 313
Clarifying Your True Responsibilities......Page 314
Changing Your Responses......Page 315
Letting Go of Control......Page 317
Cure for Loneliness......Page 318
Breath Hug......Page 319
Having a Circle of Friends......Page 320
How We Affect Each Other......Page 321
Today’s Steps = Tomorrow’s Life......Page 322
Dad......Page 323
Using a Journal......Page 324
Reconnecting with Your Children......Page 325
Being with Our Fathers......Page 326
Visualizing for Solutions......Page 327
Feeling Close......Page 328
Tower of Support......Page 329
Realizing You Can Handle Anything......Page 330
Picture the Woman You Married......Page 331
Lower Your Frustration Level......Page 332
Getting Needs Met......Page 333
Dreaming Up Your Future......Page 334
Your Wildest Dreams......Page 335
Parent to Parent......Page 336
Listen to Each Other......Page 337
Partners Support Each Other......Page 338
Similar Views or Respect Differences......Page 339
Element of Surprise......Page 340
Appreciating Each Other......Page 341
Family Goals......Page 342
Shared Memories......Page 343
Open-Hearted Arguing......Page 344
Share Your Dreams......Page 345
Play with Each Other......Page 346
Siblings......Page 347
Brother Day, Sister Day......Page 348
Working with Sibling Rivalry......Page 349
Waving the Peace Flag......Page 350
Valuing Individual Differences......Page 351
Famous Siblings......Page 352
Being Dishonest with Dicey Feelings......Page 353
Kids’ Club......Page 354
Telling Your Own Story......Page 355
Telling Family Stories......Page 356
Siblings Sharing Thoughts......Page 357
Putting the Kids on Stage......Page 358
Older to Younger......Page 359
Giving What You Need......Page 360
Listening to What Children Really Think......Page 361
Most Precious Gift......Page 362
Play Make-Believe......Page 363
Be Eager to Talk......Page 364
From Younger to Older......Page 365
The Moral of the Story Is…......Page 366
Learning to Visualize the Ideal......Page 367
Sending Little Love Notes......Page 368
Giving the Gift of Respect......Page 369
Taped Esteem......Page 370
Family Meetings......Page 371
Mastering the Technical Details......Page 372
Creating the Agenda......Page 373
Building Leadership Skills......Page 374
Learning the Meeting Format......Page 375
Creating Family Rules......Page 376
Giving and Getting Family Support......Page 377
Being a Very Important Person......Page 378
Finding Solutions to Problems......Page 379
Having an Emergency Meeting......Page 380
Closing the Meeting with Love......Page 381
Making It Your Own......Page 382
Part Seven: Having Fun Together......Page 383
Fun and Games......Page 384
Remembering to Play......Page 385
Plan a Mini-Vacation at Home......Page 386
Storytelling with Favorite Words......Page 387
Passing on Your Favorite Games......Page 388
Playing with Dance......Page 389
Things to Do While Driving......Page 390
Wolf in the Woods......Page 391
Play at Work......Page 392
Letting Yourself Dream......Page 393
Entertaining Each Other......Page 394
Guess Who’s Leading......Page 395
Postcard Memories......Page 396
Humor......Page 397
Think of Silly Things......Page 398
Joke Books......Page 399
Read Funny Stories and Poems......Page 400
Change the Story......Page 401
Funniest Home Videos......Page 402
Can You Top This? Contest......Page 403
Making Fun of Someone......Page 404
Make Me Laugh Game......Page 405
Silly Sentence Play......Page 406
Hands That Make You Laugh......Page 407
Traditions......Page 408
Start a Family Tradition......Page 409
Good Wishes......Page 410
It’s Immaterial......Page 411
Celebrate the Firsts......Page 412
Birthday Traditions......Page 413
Your Cultural Traditions......Page 414
Personal Song......Page 415
Thanks for the Year......Page 416
Traditional Clean-Up......Page 417
What Is Ritual?......Page 418
Share Something......Page 419
Candle......Page 420
Farewell......Page 421
About the Author......Page 425
Notes......Page 426
Back Cover......Page 443