100 Simple Secrets of Successful People, The: What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It

Cover\r......Page 1
Contents\r......Page 4
Acknowledgments......Page 10
Introduction......Page 11
Competence Starts with Feeling Competent......Page 14
It’s Not How Hard You Try......Page 16
Creativity Comes from Within......Page 18
Take Small Victories......Page 20
You Can’t Force Yourself to Like Broccoli......Page 22
Resist the Urge to Be Average......Page 24
There Is Plenty of Time......Page 26
It’s Never Just One Thing......Page 28
Don’t Keep Fighting Your First Battle......Page 30
Change Is Possible, Not Easy......Page 32
Seek Input from Your Opposites......Page 34
Write Down the Directions......Page 36
Anticipate Irrationality......Page 38
The Best Defense Is to Listen......Page 40
Winners Are Made, Not Born......Page 42
Do Things in Order......Page 44
Get Experience Any Way You Can......Page 46
Self-Motivation Works Once......Page 48
Speak Slowly......Page 50
Where You Stand Depends onWhere You Look......Page 51
Use Your Own Self-Interest......Page 53
Remember Who You Areand Where You Are......Page 55
Negotiate with Confidence, or Don’t......Page 57
Volunteer to Feel Better......Page 59
Remember the Task, Forget the Rankings......Page 61
Avoid the Second-Guess Paralysis......Page 63
Seek a Tall Plateau, Not the Peak......Page 65
Play the Odds......Page 67
The Past Is Not the Future......Page 69
Get a Good Night’s Sleep......Page 71
It Starts and Ends with You......Page 73
Notice Patterns......Page 75
Efficiency in Everything......Page 77
Tomorrow Will Be a Better Day (But How Exactly?)......Page 79
Lessons Can’t Threaten......Page 81
Success Is Formula, Not Fantasy......Page 83
You Need to Know More Than Just How Talented You Are......Page 85
Role Models Are Not One Size Fits All......Page 87
Learn from Losses......Page 89
Embrace Work; It May Have to Last Forever......Page 91
Exercise and Eat Right......Page 93
Boredom Is the Enemy......Page 95
Be Clear About Your Role in the Outcome......Page 97
Make Change Count......Page 99
Listening Is More Than Not Talking......Page 101
Take Off Your Blinders......Page 103
You’ll Get What You’re Afraid Of......Page 105
Think About Who You Ought to Be......Page 107
Leadership Is Contagious......Page 109
Want Support? Deserve It......Page 111
You Will Give Up Faster if You’re Not in Control......Page 113
Life Is Not a Zero-Sum Game......Page 115
You Don’t Have to Get Straight A’s Anymore......Page 117
Whet Your Appetite for Success......Page 119
Remember the Difference Between You and Everybody Else......Page 121
Your Work and Home Lives Must Fit Together......Page 123
Nobody Wins Without a Loser......Page 125
Tell Clean Jokes......Page 127
Don’t Want Everything......Page 129
Look for Value......Page 131
Get Your Motivation Where You Can Find It......Page 133
Be an Expert......Page 135
Failure Is Not Trying......Page 137
You Are Not in This Alone......Page 139
Your Goals Are a Living Thing......Page 141
Avoid Roller-Coaster Emotions......Page 143
Care......Page 145
You Can’t Be Persistent Without Perspective......Page 147
Changing Jobs Doesn’t Change You......Page 149
It Might Get Worse Before It Gets Better......Page 151
If You Don’t Believe, No One Else Will......Page 153
You’ll Work Harder if You Feel Wanted......Page 155
Don’t Talk to Yourself......Page 157
Seek Coherence and Congruence......Page 159
If You Doubt, You’re Out......Page 161
Always Think About What’s Next......Page 163
Value Practical Knowledge......Page 165
See the Risk in Doing Nothing......Page 167
Face Conflict Head-On......Page 169
Money Isn’t Everything......Page 171
Be Realistic About Yourself......Page 173
Find Your Own Path......Page 175
Own What You Do......Page 177
Be Honest for Your Future......Page 179
You Need to Know What You Are Looking For......Page 181
Don’t Forget Packaging......Page 183
Learn to Lead Yourself......Page 185
A Victory at All Costs Is Not a Victory......Page 187
People Who Have It Right Work Harder to Make It Better......Page 189
Don’t Run in the Wrong Direction Just Because You’re Near the Finish Line......Page 191
Hope Springs Internal......Page 193
Think as if Others Can Read Your Mind......Page 195
You’ll Get Knocked Down and Then Get Back Up......Page 197
Keep Your Goals Where You Can See Them......Page 199
Don’t Settle......Page 201
What Is the Point?......Page 203
Win Your Own Respect First......Page 205
Your Goals Must Engage All of You......Page 207
Take Action......Page 209
Only You Can Say if This Is a World You Can Succeed In......Page 211
Bibliography......Page 214
About the Author......Page 226